How to Transform Your Relationship with Trauma [The Stress Less Show - Episode 40]

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>> Carlee: If you feel alone in your trauma like no one else gets you. Or if you feel like you need a freaking miracle to dig yourself out of this. If you feel incredibly stuck due to tragedy or trauma in your life. This episode is for you. Hi. I'm Carlee Meyers, a stress management expert and this month we're talking trauma and tragedy on The Stress Less Show. And because we're talking about that, I brought on an amazing guest, Mary Jo Briggs. She's a spiritual teacher, psychic intuitive and Amazon international best selling author. She holds a master's degree in counseling and graduated from the Arthur Ford International Academy of Mediumship. And the Institute of Integrative Nutrition, the world's. largest nutrition school. She works with people who are monumentally stuck and often need a miracle to find their way through. Welcome to the show.

>> MaryJo: Thank you. Carlee I'm really excited to be here. Really really excited.

>> Carlee: Absolutely. So I'm curious. How did you get into this line of work?

>> MaryJo: Well to tell you the truth. I never imagined that I would get into any sort of spiritual work. I completely stayed away from that area. I grew up Catholic very strict Catholic going to church every day Monday through Friday and Sunday. And having been abused by a priest though. There was just no way that I wanted to get into the area of spiritual things. But. I had been working with children that were sexually abused and women that had gone through a lot of trauma and had a lot of tragedy in their life. And there was a natural connection and I knew that it had something to do with my intuitive ability or my empathic ability. And so. I would literally just sit with these people and know the questions to ask and. They would just tell me everything. And so I started... Formally practicing that you know to become more intuitive. And then one day. Of after I had been working for the agency as a sex abuse investigator for about 12 years, I wanted to get out of the job and I set an intention I wanted to be home. And within a minute. I was in a car accident and everyone back to work started getting downloads of information downloads. And that's when I went to formal mediumship school. To figure out how to use that information. Formally.

>> Carlee: Wow. So I'm curious. And right before we kind of formally hopped on this show you told me a little bit about a client's story and how you used that. Can you share a little bit more about her experience and how it was working with you?

>> MaryJo: Yes. Well I had been working. I met a girl. Her brother owned a business and he said I would like for you to meet my sister. She's been abused, gone through a lot of trauma in her life. And we met. And sat together. And she shared everything with me about her life. She had some food problems. She was highly intuitive, very empathic didn't know how to manage her own energy and the trauma she was afraid of everything. Afraid of everything. But I was able to build trust with her. And before you knew it she was going out and doing things. I mean it took a couple years, but within a few months she was eating regularly. At one point we we thought that she might die. You know she had to work with some other therapists as well. And now she's happily married. She's this beautiful woman. Riding horses and just it's amazing to see you know what when you put them on the right path and they use their own you know you empower them to use their own abilities. But she had to touch the trauma and it was scary. It was scary for her.

>> Carlee: And I love that image of her like riding on horses like like unicorns are so. Like such a thing right now I'm like imagining it's like a fairy tale ending but it's not and it doesn't have to be. And I think that's what's so incredible about your work is it doesn't have to be this mythical thing like we can work through our trauma we can find real solutions to go from surviving to thriving.

>> MaryJo: Right. Exactly. Exactly and you know I have tested a lot of these things out. You know synchronicity and you know asking the universe, "Well if this is true, give show me a sign," and I'll see a billboard "Great state of no worries" or you know "Only fun" you know because we're supposed to have fun in this life. We have traumas and tragedies and they're actually... it's a time for us to use that. To tap into it and to use it so we can experience more of what is out there for us.

>> Carlee: And I love the way you had described it before we hopped on here it's like trauma is a turning point. It's. It. Kind of redirects us.

>> MaryJo: It is it's a turning point. Yes. And sometimes when we get... go through one little bit of trauma and we are trying to make it through and we had a little breakthrough and we feel better maybe we've cried and we've done some energy work or we've worked with someone like me. But then another. Tr... Another traumatic experience happens or we go deeper into our own trauma. That's because we're evolving much quicker as a human species and so we have to go deeper into who we are and who we were so that we can live in the present and enjoy everything that's out there.

>> Carlee: I always like it. This reminds me of something that I'm always telling my clients it's like. They. It's almost like. We make this big decision. Like I'm going to transform my life. I want to do this. We've set that intention. And then all of a sudden. Kind of shit hits the fan right. Like this thing happens and then that thing happens. And... But it's this redirect or is this like almost like a strengthening tool to make sure like. We're prepared. We're ready to take. Like to take charge to do this thing to transform.

>> MaryJo: Absolutely. I had a situation I was in a relationship. I've heard stories like what you were saying I heard all these stories. And I said couple of years ago, I'm going to live a more fully expressed life. And within a month, the relationship that I was in it was a 10 year committed relationship. It ended. Just completely ended. It was over. And it needed to happen for me to live a more fully expressed life cause it was keeping me down.

>> Carlee: Yeah yeah. And this isn't it to say that are like if for the listeners who are like Oh no I'm not making any big decisions because shit's gonna hit the fan but it is to say that if it does happen, it's totally totally normal.

>> MaryJo: Right.

>> Carlee: I'm curious Mary Jo like what do you what else do you recommend aside from this kind of shift in perspective? What do you recommend for someone who's gone through trauma gone through tragedy for them to move through it?

>> MaryJo: Right well we already talked about that trauma as a turning point so to look at like... to look at that as a turning point and what does it mean for your life. Don't ask why. Say what does this mean for my life? Because why doesn't matter. It'll keep you stuck. What does it mean for your life? But the two other big things are that connection is a cure. So you know we are we need to connect more deeply into the trauma so that we can release it and it's scary, but we have to touch it so that we can release it. We can do that through breath work. We can do that through sitting with someone else who can hold space. And the other thing that most people don't understand is that when you really need a miracle, you have to ask for it. You have to ask the universe what you want.

>> Carlee: So can you give us an example of how we ask for what we... What we want or what that miracle. What if we don't know what the miracle is?

>> MaryJo: Then you say OK so here's a good example. Now I'm a dream expert as well. And so you can go to bed at night. Make it real simple. Go to bed at night. Don't ask the question from your ego, let your heart speak the question. So sit with yourself for maybe a minute or two or longer get present. And say OK universe. Bring to me in my dream tonight what I need to see.

>> Carlee: Yeah

>> MaryJo: Or I need to experience and I have had

>> Carlee: And you should wake up in the morning with a with a response to that.

>> MaryJo: You should have a dream, a very powerful dream that's going to shift your energy and give you some answers and keep a notebook next to you. And if it doesn't come the first night, ask again the next night but most most Oh I'm gonna say just about everybody I've worked with. They'll call me the next day and say or they'll e-mail me and say oh my goodness I have to tell you what came to me in my dream you know. And it's fascinating. It works for me too. Yeah.

>> Carlee: Wow. So we want to know what. What are you going to ask for tonight? What miracles are you going to ask for to transform your life? What action are you going to take to start working through your trauma and tragedy? And now I know Mary Jo we talked about this ahead of time for those of you who need some more support or feel like you don't know where to go to next, she wanted to offer something so I'm going to let you take it away to let the audience know what what you're offering.

>> MaryJo: Sure a free consultation. You can go to the Athena center dot com. Forward slash connect or contact and I will set up in a session with you a trauma or grief relief session. It's essentially 20 minutes to complete clarity and you'll have a lot of clarity and you'll know what you're one next step is to do.

>> Carlee: Perfect. And for those who aren't ready for that you can join Mary Jo online on her Facebook page Mary Jo the medium and intuitive healer where she holds twice monthly Facebook live readings for people who show up. You can come and receive free guidance or come and just see how her process works. So if you enjoyed this week's episode let us know by giving us a big thumbs up and hitting the follow or subscribe button. Thanks for listening and we'll see you next week.